Sandi that you for your input. Your assessment is for the most part spot on. My wife's EA (IA) habits and behaviors are so patheticly predictable literally every single night, and sometimes im the morning between 9pm and 11pm every single night before she goes to sleep. Probably why she wants me out of the marriage bed. I won't compete with that. 3 or 4 days ago she was changing with the door open, while I was watching our son, I turned my back to her changing, so she replied "Oh its nothing you haven't seen before." Today I was walking into the bedroom to get our son, and she shut the door, and said she was changing. She flip flops. Sometimes she pees with the door open, other times with it closed when I'm around.
Sandi you are awesome and have a lot of integrity, you really rock, your time, insight and effort here is invaluable. I genuinely appreciate what you are doing here selflessly for other people going through these crises. At the risk of sounding like a misogynist, it really amazes however just how much women lie to themselves, and to others around them, not to mention how far they can stretch their imagination and feelings into fantasy, and have it conflict with reality. Even the ones that appear on the surface to have some integrity like my wife. Now I know why everyone says, believe none of what they say and half of what they do.
I also read the other day, Women's Infidelity 1 and 2 Being in Limbo and Breaking out of Limbo. Very big eye opener on female psychology, how they lie to themselves and to others, how they always grab one hand before letting go of another, their plan a and plan b, the perception they generate to people and spouses, their secret desires and affairs whether emotional or physical, their indecisiveness in their lives based on their feelings. Its no wonder women need to be lead by a emotionally secure and confidant man. Because if most men really knew the difference between what women were thinking, and what they were saying, they would call bullshit on the turn of every corner, as they should. This all goes back to Adam and Eve biblically. But all in all, they are the nurturers and giver of life which I respect.
This morning she invited me out to breakfast with her and her mom and grandmother with the baby at the last minute. I declined due to such short notice, the fact that I was attempting to get the brand new treadmill out of the basement, so I can move the bed in the spare guestroom downstairs, and the treadmill unto the guest room, but with no luck because its too heavy, I'm going to have to get my brothers help tomorrow, and finish cleaning today. I also replied to her that we should start acting like we are seperated.. "She replied that she didn't know if she should ask me because we are seperating" I put most of her stuff right in the middle of the dining room. She got home from breakfast I did my thing downstairs while she vegged on the couch while the baby was nappung for a couple of hours. Her stuff is still there. She looked all curled up, sleepy and depressed after she got home from breakfast. I just came up to announce that after the baby wakes up, we need to get to the resell store to get rid of the baby stuff. We went out to resell store to sell and get rid of some the baby stuff. I couldn't resist to be happy and bust on her every chance I got, looking for any opportunity.. Some comments got a laugh, others... Meh... I noticed she was complaining a lot about some of the scenery she was taking in about random buildings, etc... So I said to her with a smile... "Gee you really like to hear yourself complain?" So she replied... "Well look who I learned it from?" I just let it roll off my back, and said "You must be on your period" She agreed and confirmed such. While we were looking around and waiting in the baby resell place, she started doing it again. This time i gave her the look with a smirk. Then she verbally agreed, "You are right I an complaining a lot."
I was actually reading yours and Steve's reply in the store, and on the way home. I was looking at one of my meetup groups, and notice I missed my Salsa Lesson tonight which I mention. She mentions to me that if I was to start dating, that they wouldn't be allowed over the house or around our son. I laughed and agreed. She then proceeded to elaborate that she wouldn't want me double dipping, if we were to get back together, and that it would be a deal breaker, and that she expected me to be open and transparent about that. I replied. "Let me think about that... "Besides, what difference does it make or concern is it of yours? We are seperated right? She went on and on about how she truly wants to he single and find herself..,, blah blah blah...I almost wanted to ask her. "Who are you trying to convince? Me or yourself? WE went further into things, and I kept calling her on B.S. I will comment on the continuatio of our sich after this post.
I have much more details to add. But i am now writing from my MBR. I am in bed at 4am. I came up from the basement after she went to sleep. I am to the point where this situation with the EA(IA) and the whole attempt at in house seperation is just so pathetic, that I actually am going to enjoy screwing with her, and interrupting her bad behaviors while still maintaining distance. She can stay in the MBR or she can have the whole rest of the house for her space.
Who knows? Lol. Maybe I can motivate her to divorce me first, or buy an RV and skip town.
