Few of us are perfect, and many that look so have so many body issues they cannot appreciate their inner much less their outer beauty. It's a shame that we are pressured to comform to a certain societial ideal of beauty, which few can achieve and maintain naturally.
If you have close girl friends, ask them to be brutally honest with you about how they perceive you. Then you decide what you want to change if anything.
It seems to be okay for a man to ask his woman partner to make exterior changes to please him, but what happens if we women ask our men to do the same? Very few men would be willing to do to their bodies what they ask us to do.
Honey, I love you, but really I would love it if you could get plastic surgery to make your penis bigger. I think that would be such turn on for me.. Many men don't think twice about asking their partners to have breast augmentation, tummy tucks, face lifts, but if we would ask them to have major surgery to please us, what would the reaction be?
We all grow older and we don't look the same as we did when we were 20. That's just a fact of life and we can accept it or fight it.
I certainly do not fit in the societal standards of the perfect female form. I'm a large lady, curvy, voluptous, beautiful where it counts, in my heart, and I like and accept my body how it is. I am atractive and have a positive attitude. Sure, I could be smaller, but I am not going to mutilate my body with surgery so I can fit into what another persons ideal of beauty is.
No matter what I have done with my appearance, my H never appreciated what he had, even when I was substantially smaller. He has never commented on the fact that I have gained weight during our marriage, but so has he. He never noticed a new outfit, hair, makeup, nothing. If he has had a problem with my appearance, he has never said that to me.
A lot of appearance it attitude and confidence, and if you are happy with yourself it shows. I have guys calling me just waiting to date me after my D. Jees, maybe they know something that my H could not figure out in all the years that we have been M.
Work on your self confidence and don't have anything done that YOU don't want to do. The proliferation of these makeover shows really bothers me. Appearance is not everything or the only thing. It's who you are that counts and I hope your H can appreciate you for that.
