Quote: So, I've done some shopping and I've already lost half the weight I feel I need to but I'm wondering where this is going to lead. If I make a reasonable effort, will that be good enough?
Good enough for what? Or whom? Don't do it for HIM, do it for YOU. Do what makes YOU feel good.
Quote: Also, I've started to get this weird feeling that maybe I don't know what I really look like. Am I like one of those guys who goes around with a really bad toupee and thinks he looks just swell?
I recently shaved off a beard I had worn for over 22 years. I had never given a thought to shaving it, because I thought it was "part of me". Since shaving it off, I'm rediscovering myself, and liking it. It's made me look at least 10 years younger, and has given my self-confidence a real boost. But I didn't consult W about it, and it really isn't about HER, it's about ME and how I feel about myself.
Quote: But, I felt kind of "schizo" when I tried it on again this morning. One second I would think it looked good and the next second I was regretting having read Dave's post about gravity's effect on breasts and the next second I was thinking the amount of droop was acceptable given their size and my husband hates fake breasts anyways and then I was obsessing about where the hemline hit my thighs. You get the drift.
It sounds like you could really benefit from examining closely your attitudes about yourself and your body, and how that fits into your self-image. Do this without regard to what your H thinks - discover how YOU feel about you. This could give you some great insights...
