Two years? Please tell me you have not mentioned this to your H. If he thinks you'll stick around for that time frame you are just enabling him and creating problems. He needs to think and feel you aren't going to be there forever. Don't get me wrong, he does need space and time, but you can't let him think your OK as a plan B or a fallback for him.
Going back to school is fine, and if it's a win-win then great. However, it is a big decision to make while you're in the middle of a bigger, more stressful situation.
I've mentioned going back to school but I haven't mentioned the separation part. I'm not sure how he would even take that idea, honestly. He keeps mentioning moving back to Hawaii (which is where I am from and where I'm going back to) to start new there.
I mean, I don't really have any other responsibilities other than myself. He'll be gone and he's taking the dog so I won't have that either. It is kind of a lot at once, but I wouldn't start until September so it's not like I'm jumping right in. I'll have time to gather myself, and then at least have something to look forward to after all of this.
Ah yes, Hawaii. It is the magical place where none of your problems will exist. If only life were so easy.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
