(((Grace))) This is a roller coaster, no doubt. For the most part I am okay but then there are days when I feel such overwhelming sadness and grief that I don’t know what to do with myself. So I just ride it out knowing that better days are ahead. You are right...we cannot control the uncontrollable no matter how much we wish we could. Have a wonderful time with your kids. They certainly do help. My kids are currently sitting at the dinner table giggling with one of the neighbour kids. I also got an out-of-the-blue call from my SD19 who wanted to know how I am doing. It warmed my heart to know that she is thinking about me and got me out of my funk a bit. I am sure your kids will do the same for you. (((HUGS)))