Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[mikeyb]

So update to yesterdays stuff, she came home around midnight after she left. And I was still up, couldn't sleep after what happened. She then went on to say "See I told her you wouldn't be asleep when I got home". Only got 2 hours of sleep again last night. I was doing so well with getting sleep all week until that.

Today, she looks at me and says you can file my taxes right. I said yes, but you are going to owe. She said what do you mean. She had changed her dependents to 3 and will owe a few hundred. Somehow, that was my fault and I tried to screw her over. She had changed it to 3 when she switched it from single to married (looked through her paystubs). After her comments about the car yesterday I had taken my truck to work. She then realized the car needed gas before she could go to work, and proceeded to say how I messed that up by taking the truck.

The way it seems to me is the more and more I'm pulling away the angrier she is getting towards me.

Not totally convinced there's a OM from your initial statements, but I would guess she's looking. How soon after her shift change did you get the ILYBNILWY speech? Could it be an EA at work. Sounds like she's very interested in talking about her job with you in the mornings.
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So on that note, use this time to become the man you've always wanted to be. You don't have to worry about her right now, so tell us:
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It was me that changed shifts so I could get more time together. I got the job back in August, but didn't actually start the shift until October, 1 week before the truck got repod. I got the ILYBNILWY speech the day after thanksgiving. Talking about our days has always been a thing for us, I guess she is just continuing on with that. Yes there has been many other comments about money and other things that are my fault. For instance we went grocery shopping last week and she made the comment right before going to check out "I love being broke", or when it all first happened and she was going in for overtime she would hold it against me that she has to go to work in the cold and it was my fault (she works outside) and it was getting to be winter. She was going to work in it one way or another.
She had too many cards in her purse (debit cards, my employee discount card, etc) my fault, etc.

I'm about to the point were I am going to stop cooking, and handling the majority of the cleaning. After all I will be spending most of my time out of the house now. All she has been doing these last few weeks is staying in the guest room zoned into facebook all day, and being nasty towards me when I've been stepping back, so I guess I just need to step back some more and stop all this extra stuff I'm doing.

As for GAL and things i've wanted to do: I've started going to the gym, it's something I've never done but am actually enjoying it., thinking of spending the day fishing tomorrow. Also going to get in touch with a friend I don't see very often and try and do get together for some Disc Golf

Boundaries:


When you....
I feel....
If you....
I will....
If you continue...
I will....


Start here:

When you agree to a budget and then repeatedly do things outside the budget,

Good stuff R2C, really appreciating your input!