In order for reconciliation to work, the wayward has to really want it. If he wants it bad enough he will pay child support.
My ex did the same exact thing to me. I used to post as julieh and I wrote all about it. He was trying to get me to not file by stringing along reconciliation. Filing for child support was the absolute only thing i did right. It helped me financially and established me as primary custodial parent.
You can always keep money on side and reinvest if things are right between you.
Talk to a lawyer. DO NOT JUST GIVE UP CS. Once you give it up, he can quit his job and work under the books and then would have to give u nothing right?
How often does he see your child?
I will try to locate your thread. We recently switched the kids weekends so that they could all be together on the same weekends (we have his, mine and ours) and essentially we would only have to get a sitter for ours to be able to spend alone time together and do family things too. He was getting him every other weekend. For the past 2 months we have spent nearly every weekend together. The child support was an issue within the first month and I wouldn't budge. He lifted his ultimatum only to now bring it back. He said this is the happiest he has ever been, etc. He just can't get over he child support thing. Yet, he says he is willing to essentially give it up.
He wants a compromise but I am not sure what kind of compromise is even possible here. He says he knows this relationship will work so he doesn't understand why I am stuck on my decision.
