No 2x4’s from me Bo. I have had EXACTLY the same thoughts many times. My H abandoned me emotionally four years ago but in this mind, I did the same to him the four years before that. That kills me to think about. I certainly didn’t harbour the resentment and anger that he did but for sure, I focused on our kids and all of the household tasks that seemed to take priority every weekend when we were both around. I never, ever stopped loving him but for some reason, he stopped feeling like he was loved and I will forever regret that. But you can’t go back and regardless, I never once considered abandoning my vows and my family and if I had known the depth of his discontent, I would have done everything in my power to make some changes. But I didn’t know. Life was hard and I made the mistake of assuming he saw things the way I did. It was an honest mistake on my part so I have to forgive myself and move forward and try not to make the same mistakes again if I ever find myself in another serious relationship. At this stage I cannot imagine it but I know that is normal. Maybe I will feel differently in a year or two. (((HUGS)))
