So ex and I decided to try to reconcile in November. Things have been relatively good with some hiccups. We aren't living together right now and actually haven't discussed that yet. He wants that to naturally happen and fall into place. My dilemma is, while we were separated I filed for child support. My plan was to keep that in effect for 6 months and if things were going well, cancel. He essentially is giving me an ultimatum that it needs cancelled now and he will give me money, just not through child support. He believes the child support calculated figure is too high and he can't afford it. I'm just not sure if this is a manipulation or not. I'm struggling with what to do. I feel like if he loved me as much as he says he does, this would be a non-issue. He thinks the same, only reversed. This week has been terrible, we have barely spoke as he needed space to think about child support. I think he is being ridiculous.
I've been maintaining my IC. When he came to me wanting to work things out, one of his selling points was that we should go to couple's counseling. I agreed and asked if he would set it up, he hasn't. This all is a lot harder than I anticipated.
