Stander...no, we have not gone out yet. she is long distance. there has been a TON of talk from her to me and some from me about us being together though. the how's your day business has only been going for a week or so, we don't email much throughout the day though. us going on a date, me coming up to here city to see her, spend the weekend doing things with her, all of that has previously been discussed. monday she's asking me to call her, tuesday I think i shared too much of my feelings, had the text debacle and since that point there's been text beyond "how's your day", but no calls. I think me putting my feelings out there did damage and caused her to pull back, maybe permanently. so i'm doing as i know i have to do, living alpha, enjoying myself...if I use the cat analogy...i spooked her and she took off. she has told me many times how attractive she finds me, so i need to chill myself out and do my thing...just maybe then the cat feel safe and come back towards me.
up front neither one of us gave ANY challenge to the other! we've known each other 2 weeks and both of us went full throttle telling the other how attracted we were to them AND moving full speed like we were a couple/in a relationship. That caused problems, clearly. Why I want to pursue her right now is that I was liking the person I was getting to know. Her stopping is actually causing me to want to bail out, likely prematurely, than keep messing with her. BUT me being out there with my feelings, killed some of her attraction for me and made me come off feminine and not alpha like. Hopefully in such a short period of time and with her stated interest in me I haven't completely blown it, but I can't worry about that. I need to give her the time and space to wonder about me, maybe grow the attraction and let her come after me. I've made myself at least less attractive to her, but maybe with us only knowing each other for such a short period of time it can be corrected. And if she doesn't because it can't, I just keep on walking wiser for the next lady.
