Not sure what to do

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I guess I just keep getting my hopes up because his behavior is so erratic. One minute he's distant, doesn't say a word, the next minute he's asking me if I wanna go for a drive with him and texting me smiley faces like "I'll see you tomorrow :)" I know, I know. He's just messing around with my feelings. I hate it. part of me wants to keep working on it but the other half feels like I'm better than this.

He doesn't know what is going on. Don't try to mind read his behavior. And the old saying here is to believe nothing he says and only half of what he does.

You shouldn't move out of the marital bedroom (MBR). He wants out, he can get out.

I'm not sure how I'm supposed to fix things if he's not here very often and I'm not really supposed to be texting or calling him.

I'm not sure that you can "fix" this. But what you can do is take advantage of this time and space and improve yourself. 180 on negative behaviors. Get out and enjoy life. Make new friends, start new hobbies. Maybe he'll see this and wonder why your life is so great.

I figured it would give him two years (with breaks in between because its school after all) to think about things.

Two years? Please tell me you have not mentioned this to your H. If he thinks you'll stick around for that time frame you are just enabling him and creating problems. He needs to think and feel you aren't going to be there forever. Don't get me wrong, he does need space and time, but you can't let him think your OK as a plan B or a fallback for him.

Going back to school is fine, and if it's a win-win then great. However, it is a big decision to make while you're in the middle of a bigger, more stressful situation.

I just need something that makes me happy and gives me something to focus on and I think this would be helpful.

This is a great mindset. Find things that make your happy and keep your focus.