Letting go is hard JB. My H has been gone for four months now and we are rapidly heading towards D which he wants to happen in May so it is no longer “hanging over” his head. Guess he figures once the D is finalized, he will be magically released from his guilt and the resentment towards me that he has been building for years. It hurts but I can’t stop him. Nothing to do but accept it and move forward.
I totally understand you wanting your W to understand your feelings. I made that mistake way too many times at the beginning of this sitch and I am pretty sure it sealed my fate. You need to drop the rope and get out of her way. Anytime she thinks you aren’t doing that, you push her towards OM and justify her decision. You don’t need to justify your decisions to her. She left. Do what you need to do to move forward and don’t give in to the feeling that you need to explain it to her. You don’t. Just do it.
