Sometimes my GF absolutely blows up my phone and sometimes she goes radio silent for hours or even days. When she goes radio silent it feels like she doesn't care. I mentioned that to her once early on and she said that she thinks about me constantly, especially when we're not texting back and forth. In fact she said the less we text the more she's thinking about me and fantasizing. So yeah, if she's not texting you that is not a bad thing. It doesn't mean she quit caring, could be quite the opposite. But you've got to resist the temptation to temp check her.
Be the alpha. Quit being so available. Pull back. She'll probably start pursuing.
So no matter what happens, I learned something last night. Why is it that everything I should do in relationships either with a WW or with a new interest is always the exact opposite of what I think I should be doing? The above quotes ^^^^^^...I stop all reaching out to her early AM, had a good day at work, great workouts and then went out having dinner with a buddy of mine. Great day! BUT not reaching out to her...I'd have had more fun pulling my fingernails out. Hated that AND was thinking "welp that puts the nail in this one". Just like after initial BD with my WW when I had this crazy desire to reach out to her, felt very simliar last night just in a different context...only difference was that I understood the why, even if I hated it. Anyway h*ll or high water esp because of what Stander says above, I just had fun with my buddy drinking beers and hanging out. A bit before I was off to sleep I got "Hope you've had a great day!" from her. I replied about an hour later saying "Yep I did!" I did tell her a bit about my day as I think for a new interest unlike a WW it's good for her to know i have friends, I'm out having fun, achieving goals at work. Let's her see me as successful, happy, someone she want to be around. It was ONE SINGLE TEXT! Anyway...she quickly replied "Nice!!" I sent a simple "hope you had a great day as well" which got an immediate "Yes I did!" and me saying "happy to hear that!"...and that was it. No calls, good nights, nothing. And this morning no texts/emails sent from me.
I was reading a bit of Corey's book last night. As I say I was feeling like this completely freakin stinks. I just want to reach out to her. And then in the book he said something along how when he did this in his interactions with a lady he liked it drove him nuts too BUT! what he didn't realize at the time was that just as it was driving him nuts, it was causing the lady he was interested in to wonder what the H was going on with him too and that was a good thing. So a light clicked for me. BUT this whole bass-ackwards way that men and women basically need to do stuff, I get that the rules of attraction aren't necessarily logic, but d88n. I'm honest to a fault, straight forward...the thought of having to game to relationship build. If you start a relationship based on these unwritten, crazy but truthful realities...can they ever really foster a healthy long term, honest relationship or do you both have to continue the game throughout to keep the relationship surviving.
Anyway...for Stander/LH, I'm being alpha, walking ahead, doing my thing. with Super Bowl weekend got some good time GAL starting this early PM I'm looking forward to and i'm gonna start reading Corey's book. for Ginger/DonH...well I'm not doing any reach out to this lady anymore AND I could have been so beta/too forward already that there's no need worrying about me getting into a relationship or becoming depressed as I may have already blown any chance I had in less than two weeks anyway! Pretty happy that I can sit here and feel like I'm pleasing all of you! LOL
Weekend fun starts early this afternoon for me and I can't wait! Praying for all of you who are hurting/struggling. When I first got here GAL seemed kinda a weird phrase, a bit pointless, but now with time/exp I see how critical it is both in surviving BD and dating! Live your life for you! Backwards or forwards...just do it! As neffer has said, keep walking your path, good things will come your way in their time.
