Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[mikeyb]

Look, a man gets to set rules at his house. If he's married, he makes those rules with his W.

Here's some rules of my house:
-shoes off at the door
-don't touch the walls unless you're coming back to paint
-roughhousing kids play outside/in unfinished basement

Was your W just have no way of telling this woman "no" to anything? Why are y'all the babysitter and cafe for this woman and her rugrats? Is your W aware of the budget? Maybe you can tell your W that you don't mind if she has friends over but that you have a budget for a reason. I'm surprised she left over this. Is there more to it?

Yes she is aware of the budget. There is some more to it yes, her and her friend were in the kitchen talking. I was in the other room on the computer. Her friend had gotten her taxes back and had splurged on herself, getting her hair done, nails, etc.. and my wife all of a sudden gets loud and enunciates how she wish she had money to treat herself and get her nails done, saying it to get my attention. I had ignored it at this point. Until it came down to the dinner part and she suggested feeding everybody, so I brought up the budget and how she was just complaining about not having money for herself but wants to feed people who are not our responsibility. She then said she wasn't going to have that conversation and walked away, thats when I pulled her over again to ask about them staying and the kids, and she said "[EXPLETIVE] this, I'm leaving. You don't want them here then fine." I tried to explain that I didn't say they couldn't be here but just that there needed to be a quiet time for me to go to sleep. Her friend left in her car and then she was going to leave in our car. When I stopped her again and asked if she would be back before I have to leave for work. I drive an hour to work and take the car, and she drives the truck since she works 15 mins away. She the said "It's my [EXPLETIVE] car you got your truck" I then went towards validating her feelings, she then said I will text you if I plan to come back. And then floored it out the driveway.

Now on the vehicle side of things, before we moved I was only 15 mins from work and she was an hour. She got tired of the drive so we moved closer to her work. Driving doesn't bother me, but we did so with the agreement that I took the car and she drove the truck as it made financial sense. 40mpg vs 22mpg