Yes! I am in similar sitch and my kids definitely have reacted in the positive to my change. W is still all unhappy, and at times uninterested in kids (basically uninterested in anything but herself) and short fused with the young kids. I on the other hand have 180'd and don't let any anger build up in me anymore. Life is too short and our kids are so precious. They thrive when my interactions with them are only positive, and I am teaching them too to phase out the negativity in their life. I am so happy to hear a similar dynamic on your end. Well done Dad!
