The part about one word emotionally spinning things out of control
And both sides escalating
I have been guilty of that many times
For many years
It became sadly predictable
So fixing it has been one of my 180s
My advice
Stay as cool and unemotional as possible
Even if she pushes one of your emotional buttons
“He was just a friend”
And you feel like your temp is rising
Stay engaged and just listen to her
If that is not possible
Excuse yourself for a moment
And go outside and scream or something
When you are back to your cool self
Feel free to re engage
Feel free to practice this when with others too
Not just your wife
Who wants to be a man controlled by his emotions
Who makes mountains out of molehills
Not Over
You want to be unflappable
Able to handle any situation
Cool calm and collected
Always in control
Be that Over
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
