Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[mikeyb]

Couple of things. If she is calling you cranky, please reread the detachment thread. She should be seeing you as aloof, not cranky. Now maybe that is just her, not you.

Read the validation thread. Validation is an amazing tool. It shows you understand how she feels without agreeing or disagreeing with what she is saying.

Her: "I hate when you do or say XYZ!"

You: "I can understand how that would upset you."

She typical says "cranky" when I'm not my normal chatty self and uses it to get a rise out of me. Hence why she was taken back by my reaction because normally I would have reacted.

As for validating that was basically my little input into the conversation.

As for today, I got off work a little earlier at around 2:15 and headed to the gym. Spent about a hour there then headed home. Got home, and hoped into a shower in which the wife came into the MBR bathroom and asked if I was almost done, cuz she wanted to take a shower. She then noted how it was weird of me to be taking showers every day after work (Yes some days I'd be so exhausted I would skip and take one in the morning if I had time, but that's one of my 180's to feel better about myself) let alone washing my hair everyday, normally I'd wash my hair every 2-3 days. she then went to take a shower and told me her friend had a date and was coming over to talk with her about it. And that's were I'm at now, haven't made dinner yet, not sure if I am going to.

Also I have finally changed all my backgrounds on my phone and computers from pictures of us, to other things like the blue angels.