She says she doesnt want to be married ever again, she doesnt want any more kids. The marriage is over.
Brace yourself. The day is coming in 1, 2 or 4 years from now that she will be engaged, get married, and have kids. This is a "Let him down easy" statement. I've seen it a million times if I've seen it once. It will happen and you have to be emotionally prepared for the fact that the day is coming.
Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do. In your case I say that is amped up to need to be believe NOTHING she says and NOTHING she does.
Did, your sitch reminds me so much of OrangeK's sitch. The big difference being that he had no access to his W because of a restraining order. Other than that, your actions, where you try to find solace, the self-justifications, all of it.
Seriously? Because a therapist said it it okay to have casual sex? While you are still legally married? And still pining to be with your W? Did, what does ethics and morals say? Forget some random therapist that I assume you found on the internet. I could find someone writing on the internet to justify murder. It doesn't make it right.
Do the right thing. So that in 10, 20, and 30 years from now you can look your daughter in the face and say "I did the right thing." By all means pursue these other women, AFTER you divorce your W. No one here will blame you for filing for D. In fact, in your sitch, I am now Team D. There will be plenty of women AFTER the D.
Hang in there. Think about what is best for you. For your D4. And for moving forward. Because I will be frank with you, this latest post AIN'T IT.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
