We have only been talking for two weeks. She FB friended me one day, texted me and called me that night. We both took it light speed for sure. If I did call it an R, that was not intentional and just a bad choice of words. New acquaintance would be more appropriate. And yeah, if I did say a future...guilty as charged. One thing though, it has been months since I've been pining for my wife. Sad that D was inevitable, yes. Sad about the loss of my D's family, yep. But definitely not at all interested in my wife.
She and I got WAY ahead of ourselves for sure. She took the lead on it and now has hit the brakes and rightly so.
There should be no rush, it just happened. For sure there's no rush now. There were no i love you's or confessions or you're the one, stuff like that but we did get quick into good night/good morning calls and texts. And while we never said exclusive or anything like that, we did tell the other we wanted to get to know each other together if that makes sense.
You aren't missing anything, perhaps believing it was a bit more over the top than how the first week went but mostly right on. To be honest I thought we'd text, email back and forth for a few weeks before even talking on the phone, but we hit that stage the first day when she called me.
So I feel like I have been done with my ex for many months now and have done with my D just as you described, living my life not really pursuing anyone. My IC is aware of this new person, she believes that I am far enough along to be able to get to know this new person. Does she know how fast this whole thing has gone, no, but that is only because I have not seen her again since it took off. And as yet there have been no in person dates, there is distance (2 hours) that is a factor in this along with me having my D4.
Look I'm not oblivious to what you are rightly saying. In fact WOAH BUDDY, I totally agree with that. We got out of the gate the first week from her aggressive approach and I went with it. Now she is hitting the brakes and I definitely know that is the absolute best thing for the two of us to be doing.
I really do appreciate your 2x4's Ginger! Had she not come to me with interest, I would still be riding along finishing up my D doing nothing more, but as she did and I was interested in the person I found, I couldn't not see where it led.
