Ginger...yeah for sure we are not we are not calling all the time. And I am very happy with her communication. She has been proactive in contacting me, she is open/honest in her needs, she is apologetic (even though there's no need for her to be) when she is busy and can't talk. Yes she is attractive, but these deeper positive traits of her personality are really making me more interested in her. She is way younger than my WW, BUT seems much more mature and adult. She is telling me my needs and I am LISTENING and adjusting myself accordingly. And I don't feel like my doing so is losing who I am. And yep you are spot on in saying "to me" she seems inconsistent as we definitely took off WAY fast and we have been backing off from that as we've gone. I definitely want her to feel comfortable with the pace so I want to work with her to find that balance. Just going from fast to pulling back to where we are now...uncertainty has crept up for me. I'm countering that by GAL'ing, doing my thing and putting no pressure on her.
Yep, Ginger I was worried about us burning out so I really am fine slowing it down. I see potential between us and it would be a shame to go crazy fast and burn it up. Definitely from being here I'm aware of not telling others how they feel. Also from being here though, I have learned to validate their feelings on how they feel AND adjust myself to address issues they may have. Never had that chance in my sitch, it is refreshing and adult and grown up feeling to feel like I'm communicating and working with my partner.
On the 10 texts...I mean if I had one stream of thought to share with her, would it matter if I put 4 sentences into one text OR I broke those out into 6-8 texts? For me, she could write War and Peace and it wouldn't bother me. I just don't associate any pressure with it. She actually sends like a paragraph at a time sometimes, BUT it's only one text. The main thing is that it was making HER feel uncomfortable, it's valid for her to feel how she does and it was on me to adapt accordingly.
Yeah we had been doing phone calls every night. When I have D4, she is down early evening while I would stay up and so it was easy to speak. She has called when D4 has been up and those have been more of an issue as I'm in full Daddy mode at that time. And yep, there won't be calls every day. We were just in the brand newness of each other and so were on a streak. And we've already done the "hey I passed out" and missed each other. It's all about patience, time and finding the balance/what works for both of us.
Definitely not future planning with her and just being back in the dating/new relationship phase is where the "screwing it up" thought comes from. She is actually the 2nd since my ex, but in the 1st it was I who made the first move, whereas in this instance she did. And yes, DB really does! What you learn here really does help you beyond your sitch!
Neffer...Thank you for your words of support. Each comment I read from you, just had me nodding going "yep, yep, yep". Heck SHE has already told me I'm the AMOAFWL and I know I'm a catch. What got me was just how fast we took off and have since been pulling back. I know that's a very smart thing for us, but just takes time/patience to really try and see if we can build a solid relationship. For the confusion I've expressed, I'm more than happy to take the time with her. :-)
LH...Just as with what Neffer said...I'm taking every single word of that to heart.
