Ok, so I’ll be 39 this year myself and I 2 years ago I dated a 27 year old. It’s different he was about calling me ALL THE TIME. He would leave my house and call me on the way home. It made me nuts. I have a full time career and a daughter. I have to say , for 29 , I give her props for communication . She told you what she wanted in terms of a good night call:text, and told you what she felt was overwhelming. She seems inconsistent since things took off fast, but I think she is feeling out what works for her and what doesn’t.
About things coming so strong out of the gate..... it’s got to die down somewhere . Can’t keep that pace forever and that’s why I worry about the ones that’s come on so strong, from my experience, they fizz out just as quick.
AS made the best point. We don’t get to tell others how they feel. She felt overwhelmed, so she was overwhelmed, even if you feel she shouldn’t be. I think we all have done that wrong in our M’s or R’s.
And pure curiosity. How do you NOT see 10 texts with no response plus a phone call with no reasons was NOT overwhelming?!? That is your truth, of course, but yeah..... when someone sends one line texts after another, it’s like poking someone repeatedly.
So, communication all day throughout the day can’t be entertained. Phone calls every night? How do you do that with a kid?!? My phone calls have ended since the birth of my daughter 11 years ago. When 9:30 comes around and she’s asleep, so am I, lol
In reality, you won’t get the chance to have a phone call every day. Some days might just be good morning and goodnight because we got jobs, lives , kids....
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 5 months there is always a good morning and good night ( sometimes no goodnigbtt bexause one of us passes out, lol, but we learned that about each other. Some days we are much more chatty than mother’s, not so much, depending on how life is happening.
Live in the moment. Don’t plan your future with her already. Stop worrying about “screwing it up” I’m guessing she’s the first since your ex? Well, truth is she may not be your future. But let her be your present and learn and grow from this.
