Sandi, if you're reading this, I would like to know whether the following makes sense as far as my sitch is concerned and whether my WW wants something similar:
About two years before BD, her uncle and WW went through something very similar. Her uncle got BD when he found out that his WW was having an EA with a guy she met on an online game chat. It turned into a PA two months later. For 10 months, he made the same mistakes I did. Begging, anger, crying, etc. He moved out four months to his mother's place while WW found another place to live. During those 10 months his WW maintained some semblance of their relationship with her OM until 9 months post-BD (I'll explain the significance of month 10 shortly). On the 9th month, the uncle suffered a near-death experience that required him to go to the ER. During the hospital stay, the WW visited him, but was very aloof and disinterested. The uncle tried one last time to talk things over with her to which she responded "There is nothing to talk about." When those words came out of her mouth, her uncle finally let go and asked for a divorce.
In month 10 post-BD, her uncle met someone and they began dating each other. Of course, WW seethed with hate for her and called her some pretty nasty names. During that time, the divorce was rolling along. On the day that the final signatures were due, her uncle signed, but the WW (who was now single) did not. To this day, I'm not sure why. And to this day, they are still separated and have their relationships with someone else. They now get along better than they have been. Heck, when I visited her uncle over the summer (one day before I joined this board), he told me that if he was not seeing his current GF he would have reconciled with WW. But the R with his GF was serious. Funny thing is, the uncle told his GF that his current R is staying as-is and will likely not go anywhere...but they are still together.
Anyway, it's been three years post BD and they are happy with their respective lives.
I strongly feel WW wants this kind of dynamic for us and feels that OM2 and I can fast become friends once I get to know him and she can be BFF with my future OW. My heart was (and still is) screaming "That will never f*cking happen. EVER." Chances are high that at best my relationship with OM2 would be enough that I do not get thrown in jail for attempted murder of the SOB.
Anyway, I just thought I'd give some more backstory about WW's possible thought process of our sitch and things would hope to end up (in her mind).
As evidenced by my reactions to her, there is zero chance of that scenario playing out in our sitch. I just don't know how it's going to end up.
