New thread- Newcomer pre-bomb drop

[Ready2Change]

That you all don't really know my wife, that she's different.

I have read this statement from 100's of posters. Not sure why you think she is so different than all the other lying cheating spouses.

She hasn't cut off communication with the OM

There is way more than "communication" going on. Unless your wife is the ONE unique lying cheating spouse.

That divorce wasn't an option for us.

Not for her, she is getting all her needs met by multiple men. No reason for her to get divorced. One man to meet her physical needs. You to meet her financial and other needs.

So, I need to make a fundamental change in how we interact.

Glad you realize this.

So, it's clear that the wife is pretending to be working on the marriage.

Sounds like she has been doing this for several years now.

She'll be able to continue to work with him and it will be OK.

I doubt it. How many drug addicts can get clean while living with the drug dealer?