Building my best self and life with or without W

[Dtrmned]

Did, I've followed your sitch for a long time. You have consistently been given advice to not give, and then gave, and/or stop support and pursuit, which you always decided in your own logic and thinking that you "should" do. You have always come to this board with great stories and great resolve with ideas only to fold days before your own deadline and cave into what you could in some convoluted way to justify your actions. "I am done with this and am done with all support as of Feb 1". Then to say that " well, I think I agreed to July 1 to being a year, so I should maybe go ahead an give that to her to be the awesome husband that I know she sees me as". Not a total quote as I embellished the last bit, but you get my point. She doesn't see you as awesome. She doesn't even see you except as a cash register that is she leans against with a body part that you are interested in, she can cash. Sorry to be so blunt, but that is what I see. You seem intelligent. You seem to hear and understand what the veterans are telling you here on this board. Yet , time and time again YOU CHOOSE, yes, I said it, you choose to do the exact opposite of both their points, and the points you have made yourself in order to prolong this daily agony that you are in. My personal situation is to F'd up it is unreal. But I have cut off all contact and any support except with regard to my children. Am I happy about it, do I want a divorce, He!! no! But I have to, at some point, stand for myself and my children and say "enough is enough" I am too good a person to be treated this way. Did, Your W is not the person you remember in your mind. You are projecting and remembering a person that no longer exists. Can you save it? Who knows! But if you keep doing what you are doing, you are only prolonging your time, agony and financial responsibility for the unforeseeable future.

Do yourself a favor and draw the line that I have seen you draw countless times and haven't followed through. Follow through THIS time and see what happens. Either it is done, or in time she will decide to work on your MR Either way, at least you are at a point where you can move on. Together or apart. The choice is always up to you. Make it your decision, take control, be the man you are for only yourself and your D4!