I sued to be here under a different name. I actually joined in 2008 as a scared 27 year old with a 6 month old baby who's husband just left her for another woman.
I was just about the worst DB'er ever. Probably because my ex had been pretty horrible to me for 9 years and I was fed up and all my anger from those years plus what he did came pouring out. I was inconsistent, dark, not dark, I hated him, I loved him, I let him know it all. My ex was way out the door. He was having an A since my pregnancy. They will be married 8 years on April Fool's day.
I wish I would have DB'd more consistently from the beginning for my own sake. I was a hot angry mess. I was also the only one who was affected. I was the one losing. When I detached, and I DB'd for me, my life became infinitely better and more peaceful.
You keep saying you are leveling up, but it almost seems like you aren't really going to do that until she does, and you could be waiting forever for that.
