New thread- Newcomer pre-bomb drop

[Bern19]

Thank you R2C. That’s a great link. I’ll spend a bunch of time in there for sure....

As for reveling my I tell I’ve made that mistake too many times before. I think I now realize that is her way of getting control back. She must know what I have on her so she can start to develop the “spin” she puts on it to make it seem like it’s not that bad. It’s never as bad as I make it out to be. I have to stop giving her that intel and let her wonder what’s going on for once.

We have been going to a MC since December, and she’s been going to see our counselor for IC as well. It dawned on me that she’s probably going on her own to help set the agenda for our next couples session. I had been talking with a local pastor, but during the holidays we lost touch as his schedule gets insane that time of year. So, I reached out to our marriage counselor about me coming in for a individual session. My question is, do I out the fact that the ww is lying to both of us and is still having contact with the OM?