They're right about almost all of it. And these are the people who stuck it out with me through all of my hardest days.
Except...they're not right. No one is right. This is all life and things that happen in life, and there is not "right" or "wrong" way to make your way through. We search for right or wrong, but our paths are so individual to each of us. Your friends and family are correct in that you were hurt, and they wish to point that out to you, as if it were that simple. They have good intentions in wanting to keep you from being hurt again. I think you know it's not that simple - that everything that happened privately and publicly between you and XW is nuanced and delicate and hurtful and a reflection of each of your truths in that moment.
I know we all love our friends and family. Mostly, they want what is best for us. For me, my greatest lesson in all of this is drawing a line between what MY truth is, and what the perceptions of friends/family is.
Your friends and family "stuck it out" with you, but they didn't live your truth. So remember that while you should accept their support, you can only live your life as it feels authentic to you. If that means some uncertainty sometimes...that's cool. If you're pulling away or gong full force ahead - also cool. Your true family/friends will recognize your path and applaud you for finding it on your own.
They had the updated "RENT" show on Fox this week. I've been revisiting. No day but today.
