Yup. But knowing that its depression, addiction, a disorder should not make a difference. They are acting abusive to you. Thats the only thing that matters.
Many of us here project our feelings onto them. "They lied and withdrew 700 a week from their accounts while we were asking for help from our parents because of their foo issues" "they cheated and lied to me and stole money and neglect their kids because they are depressed" we can guess that, because how else are people capable of such selfish forms of betrayal. But we dont know. There are no biomarkers for any of this amyway.
We need to stop coming up with explanations and get strong enough to focus on what we need. Not them. Not the marriage that we created in our minds.
These are people that need consequences. They need to be held accountable. They need to be put far away from us so that they have limited power to harm.
