If you want her to really be in, then you get a lawyer, file divorce and if somewhere down the line she starts showing you she is willing to do what it takes by actions, we’ll, I think that would be ideal.
I will add to this by saying that I don't think Did wants a divorce so right there I don't recommend filing for divorce. But, I also think that Did has never given her space, never really gone dark or stopped pursuing her. I would recommend that he does those things.
Give that a month or two and I imagine her tone may change. I don't see a divorce stopping this unhealthy cycle. If the cycle is to stop, Did must stop it. No frivolous conversations, no extra thoughts, simple yes or no answers to his W's questions.
Did, what would you ex say/do/think if you were to start dating someone else?
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
