Like I see her switching the situation if you become too happy and free with all your time

I may be wrong but if her goal is too get you for some reason or be happier than you ect..

then she wont like seeing you having so much fun-and free time to play and make new friends-
she may then prefer to see you stuck home with 3 kids

married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow