Did, if you want her to say she’s in “in” when she really isn’t but she says so because you gave her some verbal ultimatum, then by all means have this conversation.
If you want her to feel pressured by this “deadline “ and have her pretend she’s going to do what you want her to do, then screw you over again, by all means, give her “the speech”
If you want her to really be in, then you get a lawyer, file divorce and if somewhere down the line she starts showing you she is willing to do what it takes by actions, we’ll, I think that would be ideal.
But if you want your M to keep going through this cycle, by al means give her some speech andbultimatum.
And do you really think it’s a good idea to acknowledge past mistakes? Have you not done that over and over?
Doing the same things over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. Andbill keep repeating that.
I am more afraid your “Hail Mary “ isn’t going to end in her saying “ok, let’s get a divorce” it’s going to end in a fake promise of reconciliation out of panic. And you’ll believe it. Because if she was honestly interested in “leveling herself up” it wouldn’t be because of threat of no support. It would be because it was a decision she made to truly grow. you are hellbent on doing this because you like many here have thought they can all of a sudden talk their was into wanting to become a healed person and save the M I hope you are very aware of the disasteroua results it might yield.
