What do you mean your L said there is something your W is not telling you?
If I understood her correctly, L questions the need for W to file for D so quickly. I explained to L what W told me: W wants to put the paperwork in motion, separate, and then come back in 6-9 months after the paperwork is pending (I guess?), see where we are at and then come back together or proceed with D. To me, this has seemed bass-awkward if her intent is ever on coming back together.
L talked about how if W really wanted a trail S, then she can do that without putting paperwork in motion. Why go through all that trouble—unless there is something else going on?
Originally Posted by Twofeet
As far as WW/WAW/MLC goes everyone's sitch is unique in that everyone and there S are individuals. However, they all follow general scripts, paths, call it what you want for both the WAS and the LBS. Just treat it all the same.
Correct—I should treat it all the same.
Originally Posted by Twofeet
Your W could be having a PA, EA, or her dreamboat could be all in her head. She could have some Male orbiters you are or you are not aware of. Monkey branching is a real thing. Regardless, you should pick the path to stand or move on. People on these boards have done both and neither is easy. You know what is worse? Vacillating in limbo. Pick your poison then walk your path and be Amoafwl regardless of the outcome.
What I do know is that this MR is effectively dead, and that I really don’t want MR 2.0 with her with our current dynamic.
I would want to ‘stand’ for the kids and for our vows, but I don’t want to settle for what was, if that makes sense. I understand we both have things we need to change, and I am doing my part to the best extent possible. Though I don’t want D, this is what she says she wants for now.
