What do you want to happen with her ultimately? A good MR?

You have two options. One, tell her you know and that you aren't going to live like this. She is free to leave the home to go do what she wants and you will move on.

Two, tell her you read something about overcoming tough situations and it upset you. Be brief and allow this to deflect your earlier emotions that she detected. A lot can change in 10 years.

I hope R2C comes along with some advice.

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.