Where you were suddenly willing to S and D, what do you think would happen?
I think she would be surprised, at least a little bit.
I still don’t think it would stop anything or change her mind, which I know is not the point.
But I need to stop making this about HER—and start making this about ME. Change the frame of reference.
When I spoke with my L last week, she told me that if W wants to separate—W can already do that, she doesn’t need to file paperwork for divorce and get that started. L’s words: “There’s something else she’s not telling you.”
I have been thinking more and more about a life without her as W recently. I went out for coffee to GAL while OS was at Sunday School yesterday—over on the bulletin board at the Starbucks down the street was a flyer for apartments in the neighborhood. Close to our parish, close-ish to where I work.
I’m not sure how realistic it would be—but at this point, very little sounds realistic to me.
