Posting here is great when you are going through the battle. . . . What it also does, is it keeps you stuck in all of that ^^^^
I agree.
There are new skills you need to learn now. Hard to learn multiplication and division while showing everyone how to add and subtract.
I know your sitch turned around quickly. I believe that is a double edge sword. I have very loosely been following your thread.
Can you summarize status of your R for me?
We are reconciled at this point. We are in piecing. Things are going along very well. I did have a moment last month where I was questioning if I should have reconciled. I am not sure if all LBSs go through that after a while of Ring and piecing. I was surprised how strongly this feeling was. I thought it would be more of an urge, but wow, I was literally at a couple of points very close to blowing things up. (Note, when I say "very close" it is relative. I would always come here first to get talked down off the ledge.)
Also, a couple of months ago I got the urge, maybe related to the feelings of regret at not having taken the out, to snoop on her. She is fully transparent now so snooping was very easy to do. I found absolutely nothing. Her words and actions have all been very consistent since last spring. Also when I first started going through the feelings I mentioned, she was very concerned. Talked about how great things have been, what had changed, why I seemed distant? And this was despite my best efforts to hide what I was dealing with. I took advice here and told her that I was dealing with somethings, trying to make heads or tails of it, and that I would talk to her about later.
On a long car ride I did have a conversation with her about how I was dealing with some feelings of being unsure about things related to what happened the year before. (This all coincided with the 1 year anniversary of BD.) She was very apologetic and remorseful. I hadn't seen that from her since our MC ended in July. It was one of the best conversations we ever had. I haven't said this here yet, but I think that conversation, and how great she was through it and since it, really helped those feelings I was having to subside.
That's pretty much it. We continue to be in-sync, connected, and things are going very well.
Originally Posted by Gordie
Listen to Mach1
ALWAYS! He is awesome. Asks great, probing, thought-provoking questions.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
