He did tell me he was afraid that I wouldn’t love him anymore if he didn’t have money (which I never insinuated... he hasn’t really had money since day one 9 years ago so, )I did make clear that rich or poor it didn’t matter to me and I’d rather he do what he loves and makes him happy. He just keeps telling me he doesn’t know what that is and he’s lost.
I mean, if he’s showering somewhere else I’m not sure what’s happening by the time he makes it home because he smells like old yeast whenever I see him. Like an old beer bottle. And he hasn’t had a haircut in 2 months. But some girls are ok with that so I don’t know.
I’m sticking to detaching and doing my own thing, staying pleasant but not too interested (honestly if he’s up to something bad, I don’t want to know) I have been inviting him to come along when I do go out (open invitation, no pressure either way I’m going) and he’s been saying no initially but then changing his mind and going out and we’ve been having a good time. More like friends than a date but is that what I’m going for? Is him being nice to me a part of the distancer/persuer game?
