Sorry to hear of your sitch. You are in the right place for some guidance and hopefully you can find some comfort. We know what it's like to be on the receiving end when they want to bail out.
Few things:
Don't share this with him or let him know what you are doing. He may want out but he will also think you are trying to manipulate him with tactics by coming here so don't share. This is for you only. Delete your browser history. Don't copy and paste anything and if you do, delete your copy paste info too. copy something that isn't important.
From what you said, the changing pw on phone is very suspicious. If he doesn't shower at home, it doesn't mean he isn't showering elsewhere. Its still too early to tell, I don't think many women would be attracted to how you describe your H. It does sound like depression.
Hope you are familiar with GAL and Detaching. Give him some space.
When I first got laid off 20 years ago in the tech industry, I pretended to wake up and go to work for 2 weeks so my girlfriend who is my W now would not freak out. I was devastated and did not know how she would take it. I felt like I lost all control and didn't know that could happen. I had severance pay and benefits but I still remember the let down I felt. I eventually told her and I remember she laughed at me for keeping it from her and said we would be okay.
Some men will be like that and feel they don't deserve a woman to be by their side when it gets tough. And for his parents to do that, the way you describe it sounds pretty abrupt and as if he had very little or no choice in the matter.
Take care of yourself. Get rest, try to sleep, read up on what you can. And Post!
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
