Hi Nic, Most of us are here because we never wanted a D, had a hard time accepting it and will probably never be happy that it happened. But some things just are, we cannot go back change the past, control the future or our WS behavior, all we can do is just accept that we still have so much left. You have a blessing in your D, a job you are good at, some financial support by your WH and most of all you have you. Its okay to fully let him go, I dont know if you are ready to date or not it is a very personal choice, what I was suggesting previously is just focusing on you. I was in a session recently where the teacher was suggesting making a 20 item list of what fuels our tanks and doing at least half those things everyday. it can be simple things like making a cup of coffee and sitting down to drink it without distractions. Slowly these things add up, it can be watching TV, reading a book or just dancing with your D. Small things that can only make Nicole tick without extreme expectations from it. I understand D is your full time responsibility but start making your list you never know how many simple things you can find. Once we make the list and realize we are doing the item on the list, it is basically sending signals to the brain that we are feeling happy. Hope that makes sense, hugs.
