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[Waves22]

Hi Grace,
yup, that exactly. XH not suicidal, but still very depressed. After OW went very badly, he's had a few more relationships that haven't worked out. And hi KML, you are right. I kept single for a long time (as per vets advice here) and met a wonderful man. I think though, in talking to him (XH), he never saw me moving on, he had no idea about anything about my life. Was suprised to hear about my dating someone (which is that thing, thought i'd stay right as i was?)

So, he didn't poke his head out until now. My new man knows the story, says i should go back into IC to process all of this. I agree, now i need to go through that process of finding someone i like. ugh. I would have given my arm for him to come back years ago. Now, it just...hurts? i dont know, i am processing a lot. Is he remorseful? yes, very. Being truthful? Yes about everything. All the stories match. AND as many vets would know he didn't remember SO MUCH. I knew that too, from this board. His resurfacing is as i have read about so many times here. And back then like I said would have killed for it. I DBed my butt off. I dusted myself off time and time again. Keep it up, friends. You are all doing the work and in my case, letting him go, his divorce, being kind about it (mostly) led to this. I am glad for this site to not have obsessed over the OW- of course he affaired down!! they all do!