Very remorseful. But he is not well. He is not out of his depression and is totally unhappy with his life. the AP is just an escape.Things they dont want to face.
Boy can I relate to this! My H was suicidal when I found out, saying he's a terrible person, etc. etc. But, this was round 2 (2 different people 7 years apart). So, he knew it would be awful for him, (and me) if I found out, but he was compelled to follow through with a full blown affair anyway. He was desperate for his escape and the good feelings an affair brings, however fleeting. He is also depressed, and has a lot of self-worthlessness and never measures up to anyone (even though he is handsome and successful in his work).
