My opinion is that not all of them are narcissistic. Try to remember that babies and teenagers exhibit selfish and self centered behavior when growing up. A crisis can bring out the various types of behavior, i.e., narcissistic behavior, border line behavior, etc. The question to ask is....were they like this the entire time that they were w/you. If your answer is no, then I would venture to say that it would be very difficult to hide personality disorders for a long time. People w/personality disorders can hide them for only so long before they emerge.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
