The relationship between your S and W is for them to handle. The way you let your W in, but stayed outside...to me you are staying out of it AND respectful to both. No H would want his children to not have a relationship with their M, but those two have to work through it in their time and manner.
Regarding the D, you seem to be well detached and with seemingly "full speed ahead" from your W, you are moving on with the process. You never wanted it, but it is beyond your control to prevent AND it sounds like you've reached acceptance of that fact.
Moving forward on you own path with strength from your faith is the way for you Wlf!
