A few hundred bucks here and there for a couple of blown tires. Pretty small potatoes compared to the custody and settlement. Since H is still working towards that, I do like the idea of keeping the waves small and not getting in his way. I do understand what a pain he is being with his drain on nonexistent petty cash reserves. You see this well, IMO, no point in fighting over $10 toll fees for a couple of months; you are picking your battles, the ones that really matter. I do hope this particular fisical timeline is a short one.
So, did any of the quick fixes work on your washer? I am guessing not, given your post about what it would take to remove the errant appliance from its current location.
For $300, get that handyman over. Boil some water, pour yourself a nice tea, and enjoy getting the washer replaced from his labour. Remember that bit about picking your battles? Gerda doesn’t need a strained back on top of everything else she is dealing with.
In the interests of saving your back, and some cash, I have some other suggestions. Well one suggestions and one stating a possibility.
Ask H for help. I really don’t like that one. However, perhaps he is feeling somewhat generous and helpful; unlikely with his pushing for divorce. I do not recommend this, I only include it to show there is usually more than one way to approach a problem. And to highlight how much better my actual suggestion is.
Ask S13 for help. Really! A thirteen year old boy can be quite strong, small enough to get in those tight places, and eager to please and be a man. You and your son I’m sure are more than capable, under your direction, to get the washer and dryer out of the closet. D11 would probably be interested in helping as well. There are jobs she can also handle. Example while S13 is removing moulding, D11 can unplug machines, turn off water, and remove dryer vent. It would be a good bonding time IMHO. All my kids helped lots with repairs and renovations.
Don’t think I am ignoring your posts about your situation. I do want to converse with you on that topic. However, having no washing machine is not a fun place to be in, and this is something that can be resolved rather quickly compared to that marathon we are all in.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
