If your H is anything like mine, he easily sees faults in others (and is quick to criticise them) but fails to see them in himself. He has a negative thing to say about everyone but he never says it to them - just to me because, like all narcissist, he has a pathological need to be liked.
I have protected nannies, cleaners, piano teachers, coaches etc from his 'they haven't done [whatever] properly'. When it is serous, he will moan and moan and then eventually tell me that I need to talk to them. I will do the conflict side, and then he will come in to 'clear the air' with them.
I went out Thurs and our nanny said he seemed surprised I wasn't in when he called the girls that evening. I basically ran out the door when he came over this morning as he was late and I had planned brunch with a girlfriend. When I came home I said I wasn't coming to MIL's with them. He shrugged his shoulders and went to leave. He barely said goodbye. I had to call out "Bye H" as he walked out the door. This is what he wanted (co parents) and now he is acting like a sulky child. Unbelievable.
