My guess is, and the reason I asked the questions...
WHY are you prideful ??
WHY are you stubborn ??
WHY are you selfish ???
My best guess would be fear...
Fear of being divorced
Fear of being embarrassed
Fear of failing
And to maybe an even greater degree ??
Fear of succeeding....
Wow .... this ^^^^ really hit me hard. One of the questions that replay a lot is what is stopping my H from coming home. I know that he wants to come home (he is always here), I know that he loves me and still feels connected to us but he just can't take that step ... and then I read this, and it just, well, it just sounds like truth to me.
All relationships are a leap of faith. A willingness to put yourself out there and fail. But, sometimes the past is too heavy and it weighs us down.
I feel for you Steve. For the R to work you have to both be willing to put yourself out there and make yourself vulnerable to it failing. Leap of faith, right?. I can appreciate, after what you've been through that you feel the need to protect your heart. I can't offer much advice - proceed with caution, consider whether you are willing to forgive, and if you are, then commit to forgiving her and put the past behind you, and if not, then what's the point ...
I also wanted to say thank you for all your input to my sitch. It is much appreciated.
