Still foggy, still going (Phoenix9 DB XI)

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I didn't think I was allowing her to do that. I thought that what she does is her business and to leave it be. This includes her doing OM2 stuff. What am I doing that is making her eat cake?

You have no control over what she does. You only have control of your response. You obviously know she is being intimate with another man, yet you are choosing to pursue her.

Where are your personal boundaries?

These are two of mine:
I do not want to be with a woman who does not want to be with me.
I will not share my woman with another man.


I guess from my point of view, she gets to go be intimate with OM while you are babysitting. Then you have to leave while she gets quality time with D. Sound like a perfect arrangement for her to me. All her needs are getting met by multiple men.



Anyway, have you purchased the book? I think the exercises are helpful. Maintain your personal boundaries with everyone.

Are you an expert in 4-6?

1) Start off by living a healthy lifestyle. Make healthy choices when eating. Drink plenty of water. Get good sleep. Exercise regularly. Take care of your body. Alcohol in moderation. Set a goal to reach, and then maintain, your ideal weight.

2) Make good grooming and hygiene a ritual. Accentuate the differences between the sexes.

3) Dress with style - fit, compliment, cohesive, unique, personal touch

4) Attitude (state of mind) – Happy (smile), Cool (Open and relaxed body language), Calm (slow), Confident (eye contact), humorous, seductive (ozz sex), Depth (mysterious, surprise ), Sincere , Interesting, Engaging

5) Awareness/Flirting ( 93% of communication is non verbal (body language) – study and enjoy what you find attractive and your body will naturally follow your thoughts. It is the ladies job to catch and hold a mans eye, several times if needed. This signals it is OK for him to approach. It is the mans job to approach the woman.

6) Social proof - Enjoy interacting with everyone, especially attractive members of the opposite sex.

I remember saying this a long time ago, but it never came to fruition. I don't think Phoenix should be leaving his house to make life easier on his W. She choose to get OM in her life, not Phoenix, so why does he have to work around her?

And maybe even do whatever you want on these nights where you are scheduled to watch your daughter while she visits OM? It's almost like you're complicit in this arrangement, and the arrangement is inherently wrong.