It's good to hear your update! It's a big achievement to survive six months of this crisis! It seems you've done all the right things to improve yourself and to feel as well as possible under these circumstances. It does help a lot to better understand what's happening and the to learn about the dynamics of affairs. There's still a lot that has to happen in your case. Your wife still has to come back and get divorced if she wants to stay with the other man. It's good that you're stronger now to deal with whatever comes next. It's still a challenge and I think we'll always love the persons we married and we'll wish they never made these choices but when they drop us so easily for someone else it's important to cope and stabilize ourselves. It seems you've done great. You'll really be the perfect husband for whoever you're with in the future!
Thanks Nicole. So will you.
I know the chances of her A working out are slim to none. Both cheaters who's emotions are running wild right now. But that will fade, if its not already. I know my WW. As time passes by she will begin to find faults in him, then the major elephant in their relationship "trust " will begin to breakdown. When she realiseswhat she lost against what she got from her A, she will breakdown and experience a loss and pain much worse than what she ever imagined. I almost pity her.
Limerence is a dangerous and destructive state for marriages. It hurts so many people. When her AP is gone one day, she will fully see the pointlessness of the whole A.
It's only a matter of time.
But you and I and others here will be better, stronger and moving forward to better things in life.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
