Joe, despite everything it's a dream for many of us to have a chance to reconcile with the spouse we loved so deeply. You're being given this chance so it's worth taking the time to raise questions, have doubts, and keep trying to see if you can reconcile. I had this chance too and I felt so much pain and anger when he came back, especially after I found out more about what happened. I was so stuck on getting him to admit to his mistakes and I showed so much resentment that I don't think I ever really listened to him or understood his side of the story. I was never able to re-connect with him although I still loved him. He finally gave up and took the easy way out when he met someone again, but in your case you have a woman who wants to try and it's still not too late for you. You're both in unchartered territory but any woman you meet in the future has the potential to cheat or leave. You could take a chance on some other woman and she'll end up doing the same thing in five years, although hopefully not since you've learned so much now from your current situation so you'll choose more wisely. But still, right now you have a woman that you already know well. Would it be worth going through another year or two of hardship while you try to reconcile if it means you two could be happy together for the rest of your lives after that?
