Nice to see you again. Very good update, you are progressing well.
DV is correct, you are moving towards detachment. Be patient and hang in there, it is coming.
It is interesting to see the MLCers “nice as pie” attitude. It is so over the top, kind of childish really, thinking they will fool people with their acting.
Originally Posted by R678
what I do know is the days I don’t have any anxiety are becoming more as 2 months ago every day was filled with anxiety now it’s not every day but it’s still there so at least I know I’m slowly getting there and not stuck in one stage .which I was getting worried about.
Don’t worry you’re not stuck.
The LBS does not complete one stage then move on to the next stage. There are many smaller items, concerns, feelings, etc... all progressing differently. They all cannot proceed together, there is just too much to accept all at once. So some things are still in denial, others are anger, and others in bargaining, depression, or acceptance. This why we cycle. Something comes up that is “new” to us, and has not been realized, and while it is dominate in your mind you are back in earlier stages.
So, what do you feel when you are not so full of anxiety? What are you thinking then?
Those moments are the building blocks for detachment, and an excellent sign of progress. Try to see, to rationalize, to understand - you are anxiety free, you are not tied to her actions or emotional state. This realizations takes time, your mind has to accept it. Just slowly and patiently “see” how you are not tied. The best progress happens when you are calm and not forcing things.
I may have mentioned this once or twice ( ). Be accurate. Seeing things accurately helps with detachment and has many other returns and benefits.
Stay strong and continue to focus on you.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
). Be accurate. Seeing things accurately helps with detachment and has many other returns and benefits.
