Tell everyone that you don't care to hear stories about your STBXW and that you'll say it once, and if they bring it up again then you won't be around to listen to them.
Forgiving her for your own sake is the best plan. Everything else sounds good. I'm glad you have a date and are ready to move on.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
